Love and all

I'm turning 40 this year, that's fucking old but I feel young. Writhing this blog takes me back almost 20 years to a time I needed love and support. I had my family and friends and from them I got more support and love I could ask for. The thing is in times where you are down and out for the count you need that little extra special thing that gives you the strength to fight for life and a future worth living for.

I think that extra special thing is different for everybody, for me though it was my then girlfriend. I think people underestimate the power of young love branding it as a simple crush way to easy. My girlfriend was only 15 at that time, young yea. Nowadays people freak out if their daughters gets little serious with a boyfriend at 15. As a father now I do understand why but I hope I always remember what power that young love has. At 15 she had the strength to deal with my accident and disabilities and stood up for me against her parents but more importantly mine. My parents made it hell for her blaming her even though she was not even in the car or the reason for me being on the trip.

While in rehab the social worker would arrange for disabled people to come give some talk on how life does not end just because you are stuck in a wheelchair. This was done every Wednesday and we had to sit and listen to how these peoples lives continued and how the coped. Now this was all fine except for one thing, the all started of with something in the line off
“I had a wife” (or girlfriend)
“but she left me after the accident as she could not cope”
“but am happily married now to someone else”

It was if we were being prepared for the day our wife's or in my case,girlfriends, will be dumping us. The thing is from the day you hear that you will be disabled for life you worry about exactly that. Family you know will stay your family but your girlfriend can walk away any time especially at the age of 15.

Well she never walked away, she stuck with me, my disabilities and continue to do so today. We got married and had our fair share of financial and family problems and today our marriage is stronger than ever with the addition of our little girl.

Life changed from all about us to all about her. I don't know if its like that for every new parent but for us it changed.